Re: Resolutions

SJ-Header.jpgSo, if you’ve been following this blog at all, you’ll remember that a couple weeks ago I posted My Resolutions for 2013.

Yet, here I am, again bringing up a subject that had pretty much disappeared from conversation after the first weekend of the New Year.  Why, you ask?  Irony, I say.


You may recall that I declared NO to resolutions, going instead with intentions.  Yet, in all the hoopla and excitement, I forgot to list my first and foremost intention.  That’s right—I made a mistake.  An error.  An oversight.  An Oops, with a capital O.

Well, the irony is that this mistake winds up being in complete alignment with my #1 intention: To make more mistakes!  It’s true; I kid you not.  I intend to make more errors, mistakes, and faux pas than ever before.  I’ll likely set a personal record for most mistakes in a single year.  I can do it—I know I can!


Now, before you write me off as just plain loopy, please consider—this is in total opposition to my previous S.O.P. (standard operating procedure).  Back then, I feared committing errors, and they were to be avoided at-all-costs.  (You may have started to notice that I dislike thoughts that associate with the at-all-costs crowd).  There have been times when mistakes were so feared that avoidance strategies like paralysis and no action seemed reasonable.

So, in theory, my intention to make more mistakes will psychologically free me from the fear of making any mistake.  It also allows me to set the intention of showing myself kindness, compassion, and forgiveness.  If I want to share my kindness and compassion with the world, I figure I ought to start with myself.

If you read yesterday’s post, I talked about The Little Tug, and I suggested you question one thought you have that is limiting you.  For me, one of those thoughts has been: believing that it’s not okay for me to make a mistake.  Now, there are plenty of personal history and reasons that got me to believing this, but that’s not what’s important.  The point was for me to challenge this thought that made me feel bad about myself, and find out if it were really true.

So, I employed Byron Katie’s Four Questions strategy, and came up with this.

Is it true?  It is not true that it is not okay for me to make a mistake.  I am human and will make mistakes, just like anybody else.  In fact, because we all will make mistakes, my turnaround thought is: It must be okay for me to make a mistake.  Delivering me, ultimately, to my intention: the freedom, liberty, and acceptance to make mistakes.  Make more mistakes.  Make lots of mistakes.  And that is okay!

One thought on “Re: Resolutions

  1. Yes, Ray, you are going to make mistakes and it is okay to make mistakes because you are HUMAN. I am so sorry you have been so hard on yourself to be perfect all the time. Is that what Dad and I did to you. I just tried to encourage you to do the best you could in everything you did.

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